I am not sure where I heard this before but I am learning that marriage is all about learning to live together with someone through all the good and all the bad. The things that you go through in a marriage will test all the skill you have. It will test you willingness to be selfless and your willingness to succeed.
In order to succeed there must be a definite connection between you and the person you plan to or have already married. You must continually have open dialog from everything from wedding colors to how you like to iron the sheets after they come out of the dryer every Sunday. Well, I don’t iron sheets because it seems to be a waste of time, but you get the point! So, communication is key. The bible says what God has put together, let no man put asunder. Well, if there is a missing link between the two then there is no long a connection that can not be broken.
When we mere humans get upset or don’t understand something we tend to stray. We stray from God, we stray from our spiritual leadership, and even from those who we love. Why do we do this? We began as individuals with a parental covering and then one day the covering is gone. We are encouraged to go out and make it on on own. We are told we can do anything we want without having to depend on anyone. After several years of independence we are then told we are going to join our lives with someone else whom we must depend on to make the relationship succeed. No wonder so many relationships fail. We are all severely confused. First we are dependant, then we are alone and “independent”, then we have to be dependant on someone who hasn’t proven themselves for long enough but we let this thing called emotion take us for a ride.
As I write this I am getting confused because the reality is marriage is dependant on several things:
1. The first thing is common sense. Many of us don’t use common sense when we choose to marry. God allowed their to be unics for a reason! Now I am not one of them so I choose to marry. But I also choose to use common sense.
2. Secondly we have this great thing called LOVE. Love is a combination of respect, trust, hope, and most importantly commitment. Many don’t know that Love is a choice. You can choose not to Love someone any longer. We call this divorce!
3. Third, we have to have faith. Well faith in what. Faith in you, your partner and God. Without all three this all seems silly. Love will fail, but God will provide and keep the Love alive. The Love is not always about the euphoric feeling of bliss and false happiness. Love is about choosing to stay with that person you have committed yourself to. Love is biting your tongue when you want to scream (I fail in this arena sometimes!). Love is coming hope and celebrating your relationship instead of going out with the intent of destroying it.
Introduce Kairi and Aleasha! I choose to Love her. I choose to have open dialogue. I choose to be committed to our relationship. I choose to marry her!
I am coming home tonight to celebrate my soon to be wife. I am coming home to make my family strong. I am coming home to prove my Love.
I am coming home because I choose to Love!